I spoke with a colleague who advised me that at a certain point he tunes out his supervisor. Wow! This seems like a great way to ensure that one does not suffer from excessive feedback. It also seems like a great way to shorten your career expectations.
It would be great if we could choose the way others communicate with us. In some more enlightened settings this happens. Bottom line is if you are choosing to tune out what your supervisor is saying you either better be an untouchable bullet proof superstar or be willing to find new work.
Sure there is often unnecessary emotion included. Often messages are overly broad, confusing and at times just plain mean. Filter, find the nuggets and build something better.
Remember the ancient rhyme suggesting that words can never hurt you. Wrong! You can often be hurt by the important messages you choose to ignore.